A letter to my husband

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Loving Man,

I am so happy that when I look at you I can still feel like a newlywed wife.  I get so happy and excited when I see you!  So thankful that love and excitement is still there!!  Thank you for all that you have done, for putting up with me when I wasn’t worth putting up with.  Thank you for your patience with me, for letting me find myself.

I am so proud to have you as my husband, so honored that you chose me! You are truly an amazing man with so many gifts! You can look at pretty much anything and see what needs to be done to fix it! When you can’t you simply read the manual and it gets fixed! Something I could never do. You say you hate reading but you just hate to read normal books, when it comes to history or anything you are passionate about, you will study on it and learn all there is to know about it! I love that about you!

I love how gentle you are.. not just with me, but how gentle you can be with our daughter.  I thought I would be the gentle one and you would be the rougher one but a majority of the time it’s the other way around!  I thank you for that, for being gentle with her when I’m not.  We compliment ourselves in our parenting.  Where you are stronger I am weaker and the other way around.  We are truly blessed to have such an amazing little girl!

Thank you for letting me learn what it means to truly love God, to put Him first because that is what He wants!  That is what has changed me in so many ways.  I have learned that by submitting to you I am submitting to the Lord.  The things I thought I needed I don’t really need.  They were just simply selfish little wants.  Do I really need another top or purse to go with my fifteen others that I don’t use or wear?  No, I don’t.

What I truly needed was to let you be the leader of this house, of this relationship and stop trying to blindside you all the time.  Stop trying to get my way in everything like a little child!  To learn to take responsibility for my mistakes and not try to worm my way out of it by blaming someone or something else.

I love the fact that you are strong enough to hold your tongue.  That you never complain about anything!  You are such a strong man in so many ways, but holding your tongue in so many situations shows me how really strong you are!

So many times you could have said more than you did, like I unfortunately did to you way too often, but you restrained.  You were strong enough to just walk away, when I just thought you were being mean by not wanting to settle it then and there.  You didn’t want to put up with anymore screaming and yelling and say something you might regret. 

Please forgive me Shane for all the things I said to you and have done in the past.  Words hurt just as much as anything else.  They are life and death in a marriage.
I am so thankful for all the changes that we have had to go through to get where we are.  They have made our marriage stronger and made us as individuals a lot stronger too. 

I just wanted to say I am so sorry for the past mistakes I have made and so thankful for your support in helping me grow into a stronger woman, wife and mother!  You were my best friend before we got together, and will always be my best friend.  I love you honey more than you will ever know!

Love you, always & forever
Nicole

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Giving your all

The Holy Spirit took me aside that day and began to convict me and remind me to praise my husband for giving me what he can: “He may not be as good a handyman or mechanic as other husbands, but could you praise him for giving all he has? I know those aren’t big deal, but sometimes that’s all he has. It’s those times when he’s giving you more than all the others.

*Excerpt from: One Year Book of Devotions for Couples by Teresa Ferguson

How many times have we as wives been jealous over someone else’s husband?  How many times have wished our husband did this or that like so and so’s husband?  Those thoughts are such condemning thoughts and not commending thoughts. 

“You shall not covet your neighbor’s house. You shall not covet your neighbor’s wife, or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor.” ~Exodus 20:16

Even though some of those thoughts are not spoken they are still thought, they are still in our hearts and minds.  They are ‘speaking’ such condemning words over our husbands!! 

My husband, Shane, loves me and I know this.  I have always known he wasn’t a touchy feely person and doesn’t easily express his emotions but the things he does is his way of showing his love.  He is giving me his all!! 

He is a wonderful handyman, can fix pretty much anything household or even vehicle wise.  He is always making sure that my truck, which is a gorgeous 1997 Chevy that I love, is always in tip top shape!  With him doing that, doing the maintenance it needs, it has never left me stranded or gave me a feeling that it wouldn’t be able to bring me and my daughter home safe.  That is Shane giving me his all…

Shane loves me and does his best to provide for this family and protect this family. That is his way of showing how much he loves us!! That is him, giving us everything he has!!

“Truly I tell you,” He said, “this poor widow has put in more than all the others.  All these people gave their gifts out of their wealth; but she out of her poverty put in all she had to live on.” ~ Luke 21:3,4

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Praying for our husbands

A dear friend sent this to some more ‘Imperfect Wives’ and I just had to share it.  Something I need to print and do everyday.  I do pray for my husband but it is nice to not always have the same prayer…

His Head –That he will look to You as Lord of his life.                         (1 Corinthians 11:3)

His Mind – That he will have the mind of Christ and think as the Holy Spirit would lead him and not the flesh. (1 Corinthians 2:16)

His Eyes –That You will keep his eyes from temptation and that he will turn his eyes from sin. (Matthew 6:13, Mark 9:47)

His Ears – That he will hear Your still small voice instructing him.      (1 Kings 19:12, Psalm 32:8)

His Mouth – That his words will be pleasing to You. (Proverbs 19:1)

His Neck – That he will humble himself before You and be strong, courageous, and careful to do everything written in Your Word so that he will be prosperous and successful.                               (James 4:10, Joshua 1:8-9)

His Heart – That he will love and trust You with his whole heart. (Deuteronomy 6:5, Proverbs 3:5)

His Arms – That You will be his strength. (Psalm 73:26)

His Hands – That he will enjoy the work of his hands and see it as a gift from You. (Ecclesiastes 3:13, 5:19)

His Feet – That You will order his steps and that he will walk in Your truth. (Proverbs 4:25, Psalm 26:3)

 

Oh and guess what?  My friend Beverly, that sent me this, said she got it from Girlfriends in God!  Love them! 

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