Move, get out of the way!

Moving and getting out of the way… normally this is not a problem for me until it comes to giving up control.

What I mean by that is by getting out of the way I am handing control over to God.  Most people would say this should be no problem, but for those that know me, they know how hard that is for me.  Even if it is to our Lord.

Until I learned to give it all to God I didn’t really have any peace.  Even in our marriage, which I always thought was good, wasn’t really. 

Submitting.. that is the same thing.  Whether I am submitting to God or my husband, its all the same thing.  Submitting to my husband is what our Lord wants.

For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. ~ Ephesians 5:22 (NLT)

It is that last part that makes me able to do it easier, just wish it wouldn’t have taken so long for me to figure that part out.

When I finally moved and got out of Shane’s way did I really let him start leading our family.  I started really trusting in him to lead our family.  After all I trust him with my life why not with what he thinks is best with our family?  Why was that part so hard?

I guess it was because I thought I would lose my voice, my opinions wouldn’t matter, but when I finally submitted that is when I felt Shane really started listening to me more.  (he always listened but this time I wasn’t as catty and demanding about my opinions.)

Our marriage hasn’t been this good in a long time!  Submitting isn’t that bad people, it’s really not!  Doesn’t mean he sits around and orders me around, it means I let him be the man that God made him to be!  And in turn our marriage is growing because of it!!

This was my verse of the year.. and so far I am having a peaceful life.  Just gotta do what the verse says!

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.~ John 14:27

 

*images from google search

although Shane never did the top picture, this is what I bet he felt like doing!!
I was searching for a picture of a man pushing a woman behind him, kinda like this picture, just not with someone else attacking them.  lol

And I have used this one before and really love it!

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An update

Sorry I haven’t been doing the Jesus Calling Devotional posts lately.  I will do my best to catch up for the last of April over the weekend but I won’t be doing them anymore.  You’ll have to go buy the book! 

I have been thinking about going back to work for awhile now but I didn’t plan on looking until the end of summer since Maddie will be in school all day next year. Of course I was wanting something that would give me weekends and holidays off and days would be a bonus! A few weeks ago my old job called me back and asked if I wanted my job back. I had to think about it for a bit, talked to my husband and he said it sounded good and I should take it. Besides it was something I know, already know the people and the routine. The only down side is that it is from 2p-11p Monday thru Friday.

It was a hard decision for me to make. After being home with Maddie for the past four years, not really having a schedule and just crafting, playing, learning and fighting… I really didn’t want to take it. I wanted to stay home this summer and play in the pool everyday and have fun! Well… hubby has been working so hard these past 4 years, being the only bread winner, doing well and not struggling but there are always those thoughts of what if? He seemed really relieved when I told him about it so I decided to take it.

It is going to be so hard and Maddie will now be going to daycare. Her school provides a daycare which is good and they even have it during the summer times which is better! They are also close, 10 min walking distance and only a minute or 2 driving and it is on the way to work. That is what made us decide to go with them. Maddie is excited about going and then the next minute she is telling me she doesn’t want me to get a job, that dad already has one and mommy’s are supposed to stay at home with the kids! Smart girl… knows how to tug at my momma’s heart.

I start on Monday and she will be going to daycare on Monday as well. They will let me come up and sit/eat lunch with her and I am very thankful for that. I will be doing that for the first week or so or until she tells me to stop. I will only see her maybe an hour in the morning and an hour at my lunch, then the times she lets me sit with her at lunch time. This is going to be hard on all of us! Maddie and I at separating from each other, Shane and I not seeing each other much either, about the same amount of hours as Maddie, and then it will be hard on him having to take over all the parenting rolls in the evening time. Praying this all works out and it is God’s plan!

Just wanted to let you all know so when you see days… well weeks since I already go days without posting you will know why.

I’m scared but ready for this new journey to begin!

 

 

Just a  few pictures of my sweet baby girl and the hat I crocheted for her today!

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I am the Samaritan Woman!

*image found with google image search

I am the Samaritan woman!  (John 4: 1-26)  Jesus loves me unconditionally!!  He will sit with me and look at me with nothing but love, no matter what I have done in the past or what I am doing now.  He will always love me and always want me to do better.  He lovingly tells me what He wants me to do, to trust Him.  To listen to Him no matter what He is asking me to do.  He will not give me something I cannot do no matter what it is, or how it hurts me right now, if I will just let go of my own thoughts... then He will be there as I walk with Him and do what I need to do!! 

I was listening to The Imperfect Wives radio show from Tuesday today since I missed it and they talked about the Samaritan woman and also mentioned some scripture from 1 John.  It really spoke to me today.

1John 4 is so powerful!  I love it all but this is what has been speaking to me as I was reading through it.  What is touching me in the trials I am dealing with right now. 

You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the One who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. ~1 John 4:4 (NIV)

 

This is how we know that we live in Him and He in us: He has given us of His Spirit.~1 John 4:13 (NIV)

And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. ~1 John 4:16 (NIV)

This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. ~1 John 4:17 (NIV)

 

Even now the one who reaps draws a wage and harvests a crop for eternal life, so that the sower and the reaper may be glad together.~John 4:36 (NIV)

That last verse... speaking to me about starting this new job, (will explain more later on that) even though I was fighting it, my Father knows what is best for me.  What will bring me to eternal life for listening to Him and obeying Him! 

Listening to God in this situation is bringing my husband and I closer.  My husband knows how hard this will be not seeing my daughter and him in the evenings, but my husband is happier, a weight has been lifted from his shoulders knowing that we have more security with me getting this job. 

I will sacrifice for our family and I know that God will be there for me.  This is the biggest step in submission for me.  Submitting to my husband as to the Lord!!

Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. ~Ephesians 5:22

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Submission is not a bad word!

 

*image from google image search

Ok, this post will probably be very random since my mind is always jumping around from one point to another so please bare with me!
Yes… I talk about submission a lot lately… mainly because it is a reminder for myself and because I want other wives, and everyone else, to see it is not bad! 
Submission… so many people make it out to be such a bad thing, and yes I used to be one that thought it was a bad word too.
Really, when we submit we are submitting to the Lord.  Love the translation below… like it is saying.. Hello… Wives… this is for YOU!

New Living Translation (©2007)
For wives, this means submit to your husbands as to the Lord. ~Ephesians 5:22

Once I read this verse… showing that as we submit to our husbands we submit to the Lord
We need to work on not being easily offended, not being so defensive, but to submit and let go… to let God lead us in our decisions and in our reactions to things that are said or even not said.
We have to remember that our husbands are also God’s sons.  He loves them no matter what.  They are also going through the same kind of trials we are, struggling with doing what the Lord wants instead of what the world wants.
Our husbands have enough in the world to deal with... we should be the one person that will always be there for our husbands. To be that safe place for them to come to, to be themselves... to share their struggles and praises with. To be the one that will support them no matter what! They are the head of the household, as the Lord made them to be... wives need to work on submitting to them as to the Lord. It is something that is hard but will come in time with submitting to the Lord!
So.. submission isn’t about being run over… it is about letting our husbands take the lead, trusting him and trusting that the Lord will not let anything bad happen to us.  When we are submitting to our husbands we are submitting to the Lord!
With time and with discipline this will be something that will come naturally!  I am praying for this for myself… and can’t wait until that day!
The Lord will teach us, and gently show us the way…

New International Version (©1984)
because the Lord disciplines those He loves, and He punishes everyone He accepts as a son." ~Hebrews 12:6 (and to me He is also saying daughter)

Here’s some more posts I have done on submission.

Learning to be a good wife

One flesh

It’s my Birthday

 (not totally on submission but it is mentioned)

"Submit to God and be at peace with Him; in this way prosperity will come to you.~ Job 22:21

 

3Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. 4Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. 5For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful. They were submissive to their own husbands, 6like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her master. You are her daughters if you do what is right and do not give way to fear.

7Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers. ~ 1 Peter 3:3-5

* this by all means doesn't mean if you are in an abusive relationship that you should submit and put up with that.  Submission is NOT a reason for someone to beat you!  Please don't take it that way.  

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Learning to be a {Good Wife}

I have been trying lately, after reading The Power of a Praying Wife and several other books, to be the wife my husband needs.  What I have learned though is that it’s not all about that.  Submitting to most, and used to be to me, is a bad word.  I also thought that all those verses were so awful, submitting in EVERYTHING!!  I would really get upset over that.  When he spoke hatefully to me, didn’t want to help out with certain things, all the excuses I gave to not submit. 

After reading more I have learned that we are not just submitting to our husbands but we are submitting to our Lord!  That is the most important part!  Doesn’t He deserve that from us!?!  After all He has done for us?   Believe me,  I’m still not perfect and will never be, but I am slowly learning and I think as long as I keep learning and trying then that is all He wants!

I am an Imperfect Wife!

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”  Ephesians 5:22-24

I got another wonderful devotional from the ladies at Girlfriends in God and I really loved the list Sharon gave from her book.  Here it is…

 The Power of a Woman's Words.
Sharon Jaynes
Words to Never Say to Your Husband
1.      I told you so.   
2.      You just don't think.  
3.      It's your fault.  
4.      What's wrong with you? 
5.      I can't do anything to please you.
6.      All you care about is yourself.  
7.      You never listen to me.  
8.      I don't know why I put up with you.  
9.      What do you want now?  
10.  How many times do I have to tell you?

Words Your Husband Longs to Hear

1. I've been thinking about you all day.
   
2. What can I do for you today? 
   
3. How can I pray for you today?
   
4. The best part of my day is when you come home.
   
5. You are one of God's most precious gifts to me. 
   
6. You are so wonderful.
   
7. You look so handsome today. 
   
8. I don't feel complete without you. 
   
9. I will always love you. 
   
10. I trust your decisions.

"A good wife is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds" Proverbs 31:10

The Heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.  She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.  Proverbs 31:11-12

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