Word-filled Wednesday

here is the other version I also had but decided to post the one above instead. 

I was just trying to show what ‘harm’ is.  It isn’t always physical, it can be the lack of respect, the nagging, closing ourselves off from him, resentments, not submitting.  Any of that.  I just felt the picture kind of took away from the verse but I also kind of liked it because it is a good reminder for myself….

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Learning to be a {Good Wife}

I have been trying lately, after reading The Power of a Praying Wife and several other books, to be the wife my husband needs.  What I have learned though is that it’s not all about that.  Submitting to most, and used to be to me, is a bad word.  I also thought that all those verses were so awful, submitting in EVERYTHING!!  I would really get upset over that.  When he spoke hatefully to me, didn’t want to help out with certain things, all the excuses I gave to not submit. 

After reading more I have learned that we are not just submitting to our husbands but we are submitting to our Lord!  That is the most important part!  Doesn’t He deserve that from us!?!  After all He has done for us?   Believe me,  I’m still not perfect and will never be, but I am slowly learning and I think as long as I keep learning and trying then that is all He wants!

I am an Imperfect Wife!

“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.”  Ephesians 5:22-24

I got another wonderful devotional from the ladies at Girlfriends in God and I really loved the list Sharon gave from her book.  Here it is…

 The Power of a Woman's Words.
Sharon Jaynes
Words to Never Say to Your Husband
1.      I told you so.   
2.      You just don't think.  
3.      It's your fault.  
4.      What's wrong with you? 
5.      I can't do anything to please you.
6.      All you care about is yourself.  
7.      You never listen to me.  
8.      I don't know why I put up with you.  
9.      What do you want now?  
10.  How many times do I have to tell you?

Words Your Husband Longs to Hear

1. I've been thinking about you all day.
   
2. What can I do for you today? 
   
3. How can I pray for you today?
   
4. The best part of my day is when you come home.
   
5. You are one of God's most precious gifts to me. 
   
6. You are so wonderful.
   
7. You look so handsome today. 
   
8. I don't feel complete without you. 
   
9. I will always love you. 
   
10. I trust your decisions.

"A good wife is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds" Proverbs 31:10

The Heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.  She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.  Proverbs 31:11-12

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Keeping your tongue

 

The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. Proverbs 31: 11~12

"The words of a wise man's mouth are gracious, but the lips of a fool shall swallow him up."

Ecclesiastes 10:12

 

There are so many times that I have got to work on these verses.  So many times that I have been a little harsh with what I say to my husband and even to Maddie.  I have got to remember that what you say can stay with someone forever.  I still remember all the bad/harsh things that my dad and brother always said to me and I don’t want Maddie to have those kind of things to remember.  I want her to always remember that I spoke words of encouragement to her.

With my husband, I have to remember that I need to also keep my tongue.  Some of the things I come back with after he has said something to me, not meaning to hurt me but he does, so of course I just lash right back at him with what I know will hurt him.  I need to just walk away, go to the bedroom or somewhere quiet and pray for a way to deal with it.  To just let it go or to find the words to say what I am really wanting to say so he can know what I am really feeling.  We are both usually pretty good about apologizing for what we said but once it is out there…. the damage is already done.  There is forgiveness but forgetting is always the hardest part. 

God is the only one that can change me, help change my thinking, my words, help me to remain calm and not fuel an already heated argument with more hateful words.  I love my husband dearly and should remember his feelings at the time of our ‘discussions’ too.  Not just getting my point across.  Asking him what he needs, what I can do to be a better wife for him, what I can do to help him.  I just pray that our Father will help us both to be the best we can be, the best husband/wife and the best mother/father we can be.  We need to concentrate on making our Father happy first and then the rest will fall into place.

For the past couple of days I have been getting emails from some blogs I subscribe to and almost all of them were about watching what you say, how you speak to others, or just being quiet and praying about something.   So thanks God!  I get it!  I know I need to work on this a little more, it’s me who needs to work on things too not just Shane. 

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